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Communicate Your Wishes in Writing
August 15, 2017
On a good day, I wonder if my family hears what I say or if all they hear is “blah, blah, blah!” However, when I talk about what I want to happen if I’m in an accident, hospitalized or die, I’m sure some of my family completely blocks my words. That’s why I think it’s so important that I write down how I want my health and my property handled if I can’t talk for myself.
Luckily, we have legal documents that we can use to communicate our wishes. Writing down what’s important to us helps communicate exactly what we want and reminds people of our wishes in stressful times. It means that difficult decisions do not have to be introduced and made when we’re stressed. We can think through these decisions before events occur and likely end up with better decisions. It’s challenging to make good decisions during emotional times.
Two commonly used legal documents are power of attorney – of property and of health care. A durable power of attorney for property allows you to designate another person to handle and make decisions about your finances including investments, bank accounts, property, and any other money management tasks like paying bills. With a power of attorney for property, you can set boundaries for how specific or broad it is. Choose this individual or agent very carefully. Think about someone you can trust implicitly with your money and is knowledgeable about finances.
When you establish a power of attorney for yourself, then you get to choose who this person is rather than needing a court-appointed attorney, assuming the need arises. You can change or cancel power of attorney powers if you want to in the future.
You can also choose to have a power of attorney for health care. The person who you designate as your power of attorney can make medical decisions for you if you are unable to do so. We often think only someone elderly needs this kind of document but accidents can happen to anyone. Young people can be unable to make a decision due to pain medication just as older people can be unable to speak for themselves in this situation.
Another health-related, legal document to be aware of is the Do-Not-Resuscitate (DNR)/Practitioner Orders for Life-Sustaining Treatment (POLST) Form. This document is relatively new and expands upon the DNR that you may have heard of before. As stated on the Illinois POLST form, you complete this form given your current state of health, and allows you to state your wishes about CPR, other medical interventions and medically administered food (including feeding tubes) given different situations. You may be asked to sign this document if you need surgery or are admitted to a hospital. To see examples of health care advance directives go to the Illinois Department of Public Health website, www.dph.illinois.gov, and search for “Advance Directives.”
This discussion is not legal advice. I strongly encourage people to talk to a lawyer. Lawyers ask questions, consider people’s complete situation, and can then recommend the most suitable documents to meet needs. Another legal document to ask about is a will. A will states who will receive your property if you die. In addition, you can name who you’d like to be the guardian of your children.
Ninety percent of people say that talking with their loved ones about end-life-care is important. However, only 27% have actually done so, according to The Conversation Project. The Conversation Project has a Conversations Starter Kit that may be helpful to you, www.theconversationproject.org.
These conversations can be very challenging. Talking about your wishes – and writing them down – can help reduce the likelihood of loved ones feeling burdened or guilty, and reduce family conflict. To help you start your planning, you can download a free Action Plan from University of Illinois Extension at http://go.illinois.edu/ActionPlan.
Source: Kathy Sweedler, Extension Educator, Consumer Economics, firstname.lastname@example.org