Sharing your deepest, most personal goals with your partner makes your relationship more meaningful and intimate. But sharing deep feelings, dreams, and goals with each other, may seem a little difficult or uncomfortable. Here are some ideas you can discuss with your partner to get you started.
Your relationship is more than negotiating who does the dishes, who cleans the bathroom, and who changes the diapers. Good communication and problem solving skills aren't the total answer to happiness in your relationship. There's more to it than that. In fact, some couples who have worked out all of the "kinks" are still left wondering what's missing. John Gottmann, one of the leading researchers on couple relationships, says that what might be missing is what he calls a "deeper sense of shared meaning." He says that every couple has their own special way of doing things with their own customs, rituals, and traditions. This creates a feeling of closeness and belonging, of knowing "this is who we are and what we do."
Shared meaning is created when couples share their innermost thoughts, feelings, dreams, goals, and plans for the future with each other. You may find that some of your goals are different from your partners. Luckily, it's okay if you don't always agree! In fact, the goal isn't to always agree because that would be impossible. Rather, the goal is to create an atmosphere where each of you are able to freely express your ideas even if you feel differently.
The arrival of a new baby is a great opportunity to create a sense of shared meaning around your new roles as parents. Sharing your dreams, hopes and vision for the future with each other will help you grow closer.
Conversation starters: "When our child is grown up, I hope others describe him as....", "The most important thing we can give our child is...", "When we are grandparents, I hope we still...."
People think that they have to find their soulmate to have a good marriage. You're not going to "find" your soulmate. Anyone you meet already has soulmates. Their mother. Their father. Their lifelong friends. You get married, and after 20 years of loving, bearing and raising children, meeting challenges–then you'll have "created" your soulmate.
Coming together is the beginning. Keeping together is progress. Working together is success.
While attending a marriage seminar on communication, David and his wife listened to the instructor declare, "It is essential that husbands and wives know the things that are important to each other."
He addressed the man, "Can you describe your wife's favorite flower?" David leaned over, touched his wife's arm gently and whispered, "Pillsbury All-Purpose, isn't it?"
Getting pictures of your baby can be quite exciting. Snapshots at home are fun, but you may consider a professional photographer...at least, for some of the pictures.
The first thing to do is shop around for a photographer who specializes in baby pictures. They might even come to your home to do the shoot. Or, you might consider portraits in a studio setting. Professional portraits are nice, but be prepared to pay for the individualized service.
Another option is the discount studios. These studios may not have the personalized images, but usually do have cute backgrounds and props.
Whether you are using a professional photographer or discount studio you can save money by using some of the following hints: